Forgive Yourself

Forgiving someone else it’s normally easier than forgiving ourselves, how interesting! I work with people who go through a lot of suffering, not only through physical pain but also through emotional suffering. I find it very interesting that the majority of the time, the root of how we feel boils down to emotions.

How interesting!

The other day something happened to me and I couldn’t understand why. I was ill for about a week. Nothing too serious, I caught a cold from my son. I ended up losing my voice and not being able to work for three days. Not being able to talk was quite a challenge, but it created some space for self-reflection.

I like to find answers. I like to know why, it helps me to understand and get over things, to be at peace. When something not so good, happens to me I tend to say to myself, “how interesting!” instead of “why me?”

Do not let the thoughts consume you

Living with psoriatic arthritis, it can be easy to harbor negative emotions that include frustration, self-consciousness, and anger. While it is okay to hold on to these thoughts, it is important that you try to not let them consume you. They will weigh you down and make life harder.

It's not easy, right? Being consumed by pain and the heavy weight that comes with managing life with PsA - it can feel debilitating. In those moments of intense emotions - recognize them and work through them. We have to stop being so hard on ourselves.

It about how we come out of the situation

In addition to my cold, I came to the additional conclusion that the reason why I lost my voice was my body reacting to negative emotions that I was holding on to. During my illness, I found myself being judgmental and not being able to let go of it. How could I be judging people? I’m a yoga teacher and health coach, I do the work and I teach people to let go. It took me quite a few days to digest this.

Noticing that you also are vulnerable, that you are still not there yet, it’s not so easy, but it is all down to forgiveness. You can still be doing the work and you can still get it wrong. It’s all about how you come out of the situation.

Space for forgiveness

There are two things that stayed with me from this incident. The first one, “wherever you’ve been, whatever you’ve done or not, you can always come back here, to a place of forgiveness”. And the second one, “we only find the divine through our mistakes, otherwise, what would be the reason, if we did everything well?"

Sometimes we find difficulties in our life but behind each challenge, there is space for improvement, there is space for growth and there is space for forgiveness.