Sending Kids Back To School Without Increasing Your Pain

It’s that time of year! The kids are heading back to school! While most parents are giddy with excitement, those who live with chronic pain aren’t always as thrilled. This may sound silly since most people think having their kids back in school makes their lives easier, but that isn’t always the case when you live with psoriatic arthritis. Good news is that there are a few things you can do to make the school year less painful.

1. Drop off and pick up

Walking a few blocks isn’t always possible when your feet are throbbing in pain. Instead find a neighbor who walks their child and ask if they wouldn’t mind walking your child too. An elderly neighbor who likes going on morning and afternoon walks is another option. Whether the school is within walking distance or not, find a carpool to drive your kid. Be up front and honest about your health and ask to help out in other ways if you aren’t able to commit to driving once in a while.

2. Prepare meals ahead of time

Prep their breakfasts and lunches the night before. Better yet, have your kids help or if they are old enough have them prepare their meals themselves. This won’t make you a bad parent; instead it teaches your kids how to function in the real world.

3. Have a backup plan

Imagine having a flare and the pain is so bad that waiting to medicate until after the kids return home is not an option. Then the phone rings…. Little Susie has a tummy ache and needs to be picked up. Uh oh! Have a list of friends and family that you can call in case of emergencies.

4. Give yourself a break

When my son was younger and attending public school, I used the hours he was gone to take care of the house and to run errands. After chronic pain hijacked my body, I felt guilty for needing naps or having to do less than I had planned. I wish I could go back in time to tell younger me that it was okay to care of myself with a nap or bath. If she only realized that those were forms of self-care and not selfish luxuries for someone living with not just one, but multiple autoimmune diseases.

5. Don’t over commit

If you are a stay at home parent, you know that you will be the first asked to volunteer for every event or function. Do not agree to do more than your body can handle. There were some years when I was able to do more than others.

What tips do you have for parents with psoriatic arthritis?