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Supporting A Loved One with Psoriatic Arthritis

So the one you love has Psoriatic Arthritis and you don’t have a clue what to do.

Your loved one with PsA:

And you wonder:

Relationships and Psoriatic Arthritis

You keep searching for a way back to who they used to be and stuff your feelings of frustration and anger within you. All you see is the person you used to know morphing into a person you are not sure you can continue to love, appreciate and care for. Now you withdraw because you fear the depression, anxiety, and withdrawal that you see in them will send them into a downward spiral of hopelessness.

So the question is, how is that working for you and your relationship? We don’t need your answer, we already know your strategy is failing and that every time you stuff away your feelings, you are adding another proverbial “brick in the wall.”

Here is where you can now start to make positive changes. It looks easy but it is not because you are going to enter the world of all kinds of feelings.

Ways to support your loved one with PsA

  • Ask “would you be willing to talk to me about what it’s like living every day with this condition?
  • Ask if they would open up to you about how they feel about themselves. This will stir up a flood of emotions so get ready.
  • Keep listening!
  • Be a servant and not a taker. Give and Give some more.
  • You want to get into their world, so learn as much as you can about that world.

If you take these or similar steps, you will find the quality of your relationship will skyrocket to a whole new level and you will be demonstrating true unconditional love and their fight song will become your fight song.

Have a story to share? You can submit your PsA story here!

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  • Eric4406
    1 month ago

    I was just diagnosed with PsA a few weeks ago but I’ve been dealing with the symptoms for about 8 years. My wife doesn’t understand anything I’m going through physically or emotionally. I had to call out of work again today due to the overwhelming pain and exhaustion. She’s mad that I call out and can’t do what I used to. She doesn’t understand why I’m lying on the couch and she sees me as lazy or that I just dont care. We rely on my paycheck quite a bit and she’s worried I’ll lose my job or go on disability. I’m at a loss and I’m not getting the support I need.

  • Leanne Donaldson
    1 month ago

    Wow @stelal99 you offer such great advice to our community! I’m sure the tips you share were not easily earned. The lessons of life with PsA are never easy are they. 🙂 Are particularly like your tips for relationships as they are so key to managing our disease well. Thank you very much for sharing the lessons from your story! -Leanne, Community Moderator

  • stelal99 author
    1 month ago

    Thanks Leanne. Both my wife Janie and I have PsA. Her is much more advanced. I have learned so much from her and I see a lot of hurt and pain from a lot of women on the PsA forums because they feel their husbands/boyfriends don’t understand. I just hope my article opens the door for some communication for someone.

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